Time to take you further into the world of BDSM! In our previous blog we discussed Bondage & Discipline , and today we dive into the Dominance & Submission (D/s) side of BDSM.
What is a D/s relationship?
A D/s (Dominant and submissive) relationship is like any other relationship, but with a clear power differential. One person takes on the dominant role, while the other is submissive. This power differential can only play out in the bedroom, but can also extend into everyday life. There are many variations within this dynamic, such as Master/Mistress & Slave, or Sadist & Masochist. In some relationships, the roles are reversed, this is called a 'switch'.
BDSM – Dominant
The dominant, or "top," is the one who exercises power in the relationship. This power differential is often expressed by capitalizing the "D" and lowercase the "s" (D/s). The submissive often addresses the dominant by a specific title, such as Sir or Madam. Although dominants are sometimes stereotyped as cruel, a good dominant is caring and responsible. The exercise of power is always consensual.
BDSM – Submissive
The submissive, or “bottom,” gives up control to the dominant. While they give up control, they always retain the right to set their boundaries. The submissive enjoys giving themselves over completely to the dominant, which often leads to deep satisfaction. In some cases, this lifestyle can even lead to improvements in other aspects of life, such as more structure and discipline.
Consent and Communication is Key!
Consent is crucial for a healthy D/s relationship. It is important to make clear agreements in advance, which is sometimes even recorded in a contract. In addition, a 'safe word' is essential, often in the form of a traffic light system:
- Green : Everything is fine.
- Orange : This is a border, watch me.
- Red : Stop immediately.
This system not only helps the submissive set boundaries, but also gives the dominant insight into how the submissive is feeling.
Aftercare
After an intense session, aftercare is important. This is the time you spend together to recover physically and emotionally. Aftercare can include cuddling, showering together, talking about the experience, or just being quiet together. It is a crucial part of any D/s relationship, as it helps you come back to reality and process any negative feelings.
There is more...
In future blogs we will delve deeper into other aspects of D/s relationships. If you have any questions, feel free to check out our blog page for more information about BDSM. We have a lot to offer for anyone curious about this fascinating world!
